Every so often we have fears about the relationship we have. Perfect before, but currently seems imperfect. We used to assure everything and now they are broken.. We contemplate what went wrong. Or, wishfully thinking that you go back to the days when your love for each other is just sufficient. We question why he/she won’t change for us. We are striking a brick wall. We often desire that you have a uncommon spouse.
Well, yes, it happens. A lot. The result, whether your relationship will or not ‘make it’ will depend on the following factors:
1 - The intensity of your relationship. Was it a ‘chemistry’ thing, did you 2 only fall in love immediately, felt extremely attracted to each other, got together without greatly thought concerning how you 2 actually related to each other? Or did you desire each other because you felt that you were causative to each other’s GROWTH and not only to each other’s sensual satisfaction?
2 - How do you commune?, are you open with each other at all levels?
3 - Even if the principle is not too promising, are you 2 at least keen to work it out, to discover to fall in love with each other again, but in a unusual means? Are you ajar to the truth that relationships develop and that they will by no means be the same as at the beginning?
Of course, if each person can go to a psychologist, a fine one, it’d be so much easier! We may well learn to be adults, to tell, to grow up in ourselves and with ‘the other’.
Yet, a quick ‘rule’ of thumb, a method to make certain our relationship proceeds to be sturdy or becomes strong is to make out the other person as a ‘garden’. I have explained this in detail and hopefully really evidently on three types of relationships. Mainly, if you judge the other person’s well being, beauty and uniqueness, what makes him or her who they are (the best of them) as a garden, you will most likely see how this needs to be nourished, produce beautifully, given adequate light and water, and not exposed to ‘harsh’ elements which would weaken it, dry it, weather it and even make dry out irreversibly.
We are the sole manager of our gardens. We should know it, nurture it, appreciate it and take care of it. Our partner or spouse, then again, for a relationship which will work well and situate the test of time, needs to know that they need to get to know the numerous plants, how they grow best, the nutrients they need, how much water and light etc, so that they can grow beautifully. And viceversa. If we abuse it, overlook it, pay no attention to what makes it grow, what it needs, the garden will die; if it becomes barren, how can we anticipate it to be ‘the approach it was’ at the beginning? It’s unattainable.
That is why the line (but so stanch) is that we should to work at our relationship every day and, if we do, we will perpetually reside in this beautiful garden of love, where we can rejoice, loosen up, take pleasure in ourselves and be inspired.
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